Obviously I haven’t dated much in India, two men isn’t enough to make a truly convincing case on the subject, so my experience level is low.
But I hear time and time again from dear friends who really do LIKE me as a person and care about me something along the lines of “Indian men want to take a foreigner out for a drive but they will drive home an Indian woman to marry.” So that mixed with my first experience dating an Indian man who told me straight-up from the start that we “have no future” because of the pressure from his family and the media due to his profession …
Reading time: 4 mins We had a chat with Karan, a friend of ours who is Sikh, and happily married to her English husband and has 2 children! Q: Was religion or culture ever an issue for you or people you had dated previously?
A: I dated someone who was of another race once before.
"Unequally yoked" has evolved into a graded criterion for an optimal mate rather than a simple test for an acceptable one. Quality survey data reveal only two serious, churchgoing evangelical men for every three comparable women.
Thus, one out of every three evangelical women is not in a position to marry a man who's her "spiritual equal," let alone "head." This elevated standard now translates—for women, at least—to something like this: "Find that uncommon man ...
But yes, avoiding being "unequally yoked" is an excellent biblical principle. Paul advised the Christians at Corinth to avoid entering significant relationships, such as marriage, with unbelievers.As those who have been there can attest, raising the next generation of Christians is simply tougher when one parent is dragging his heels or openly balking. I've seen praiseworthy spouses watch their mates come around to faith. Genuine interfaith marriage is a challenge I don't recommend.But as marriage has shifted in purpose over time, many Christians have added layers of meaning onto Paul's wise command. Spiritual maturity is not equally distributed among men and women in the peak marrying years.It’s important to remember that this is not the first time in which the Christian church has had to engage in pastoral and theological reflection on the nature of marriage and of marriage to those who are outside the household of faith.The early church developed in the context of a pluralistic culture where, much like today, the cardinal virtue was theistic inclusivity.He felt the same way and for a few weeks we dated, spending every possible moment together getting to know each other.